Felon, Homeless, Addict etc.
I have talked with hundreds of people who feel they are stuck walking in quicksand sinking deeper and deeper. Stop, are you going to continue walking until the odds of escaping the mud are next to none? Or, are you going to look for opportunities to escape? Opportunity is key in escaping difficult realities. Sometimes we must create our own opportunities and struggle with all we have until we emerge. You can find opportunity regardless of your situation.
Many of us who have a less than desirable past feel guilty and ashamed of our actions and the labels of felon, addict, homeless etc. These are very real emotions as they are real labels that society feels are acceptable to lay upon us. From the very start of your journey into a new life you must fight the system. How do you fight the system?
Ask For Help
There are numerous agencies be it Goodwill’s and other non-profits that have programs to help you get started. You will also have the option to go back to school, be it college or trade schools. There are grants that may be available based on your situation. Stay out of trouble. Often the mud in our lives at least for me, was trouble with the law. I had to not only make a life change and live it, I had to literally change my life, embracing, and enjoying my transformation into a being a productive member of society.
Balance The Scales
You have decided to live a better life, done playing games and giving up. Now comes the hard part. You created a plan; school, professional help, volunteering etc. Now you must move forward with your plan. It may take you an exceptionally long time to start seeing any fruits. It took me nearly 10 years from the time I was in jail to working as a professional career counselor. Biggest keys to my success was staying out of trouble and education. I earned two degrees and currently working on a doctorate.
Stay The Course
I was turned down by everyone. I would receive job offers on a regular basis only to be turned down after the background check. Often it is a waiting game. But you do not want to wait and do nothing. While you wait start balancing those scales through education, good service and staying out of trouble.
Get involved in positive community functions. Find a church, club, or some type of organization that does good works and join in. You are connecting yourself with good positive people who may have just the right connections to find you that job. Volunteer at shelters, food pantries, clean up graffiti, pick up trash; just start doing good all over. Let me tell you these good works will not go unnoticed; you do not need a background check to do good.
Continue Writing Chapters
All these things I have talked about will start giving you something to write home about. Listen, everyone loves a good story, but you know what people love more? A story in which a guy is fucked up and then builds himself up and becomes the hero. What kind of hero do you want to be? That is up for you to decide. Regardless, you will start automatically attracting good things as your story becomes more and more convincing. You are not that fucked up guy anymore but a person of action, change and inspiration.
You can do it, there is hope and your story has just begun!